What Not to Say to a Sexual Assault Survivor

When someone you love has been sexually assaulted, you want to say the right thing. The truth is, most of us were never taught how. This guide walks through eight phrases that survivors hear all the time and explains why each one is hard to hear. More importantly, it gives you warm, simple words you can use instead. Whether you are a friend, a partner, a family member, or an advocate, this post will help you show up in a way that truly helps. Because survivors do not need perfect words. They need to feel safe, believed, and loved. You can give them that.